Catholic Man Dating A Muslim Woman

I don't mean to bother you but this is disturbing my mind and I need an educated explanation. I was at a Muslim Sister's Fashion Show predominately African American sisters when during casual conversation a young sister mid 20s stated that her husband is Christian. This as you can image created quite a stir. She was immediately verbally attacked. She tried to defend herself by saying that he did not prohibit her from practicing Islam and he has agreed that the children will be Muslim.

She was advised to divorce him. I don't know if they were married and she converted or if she was already Muslim when catholic man dating a muslim woman married. She was under such a heavy attack that I could not get that question in. However this issue is one that I need to understand because I can't adequately explain why there is a prohibition for the Muslim female in marrying from the people of the book and there is no prohibition for the Muslim male.

More often than not I hear all non Muslims classified as kufar. The only explanation I can provide is that the Quran specifies that the male can marry a Christian or Jewish woman. Since he is the head of the household the expectation is that he will respect her rights and the children will take his religion. Really in actuality from what I've seen this is not the case. The woman has so much pressure put on her to abandon her beliefs that she eventually gives in or gets out of the marriage.

I have been asked does the Quran specifically prohibit catholic man dating a muslim woman Muslim woman from marrying a Christian or Jewish male. My understanding is the only specific prohibition is for polytheist. This is a big issue for African Americans especially because of the rate of conversion. There are instances where the husband converts and the wife does not. This is not seen as a problem.

However there are instances where the wife converts and the husband does not. It doesn't matter whether they have catholic man dating a muslim woman together 2 years or 20 years, the advice the sister receives is to divorce him. Then there are the cases of sisters whose preference is to marry within their race but there are not enough suitable African American Muslim men at least in this city. They resign themselves to being celibate forever. When I say suitable African American Muslim men, I mean those who are knowledgeable about the Deen and truly strive to practice it, those who have truly accepted the role and responsibilities of the Muslim male and do not demand that the woman provide more financially for them than they provide for her, those who are not extremist, those who have not been married and divorced 3, 4 or 5 times with children all over the place, those who are not trying to have several wives when they can't afford to take care of one, etc.

This is airing dirty laundry but so be it, this is our harsh reality. First I should apologize for the long time it has taken me to respond to your message. As you might have heard, I have been rather ill. But on a happier note, recently we were blessed with a wonderful baby boy. But I should confess that there is another reason for the delay. This is a difficult issue to deal with.

I did receive a large number of inquiries about this same issue, and I have tended to avoid responding catholic man dating a muslim woman them because I am not exactly very excited about handling this weighty and serious problem. Surprising to me, all schools of thought prohibited a Muslim woman from marrying a man who is a kitabi among the people of the book. I am not aware of a single dissenting opinion on this, which is rather unusual for Islamic jurisprudence because Muslim jurists often disagreed on many issues, catholic man dating a muslim woman this is not one of them.

All jurists agreed that a Muslim man or woman may not marry a free tamil nadu dating sites without payment [one who associates partners with God--there is a complex and multi-layered discourse on who is to be considered a mushrik, but we will leave this for a separate discussion]. However, because of al-Ma'ida verse 5, there is an exception in the case of a Muslim man marrying a kitabiyya. There is no express prohibition in the Qur'an or elsewhere about a Muslim woman marrying a kitabi.

However, the jurists argued that since express permission was given to men, by implication women must be prohibited from doing the same. If men needed to be given express permission to marry a kitabiyya, women needed to be given express permission as well, but since they were not given any such permission then they must be barred from marrying a kitabi. The justification for this rule was two-fold: Religious coercion is prohibited in Islam.

However, in Christianity and Judaism a similar prohibition catholic man dating a muslim woman coercion does not exist. According to their own religious law, Muslim jurists argued, Christian men may force their Muslim wives to convert to their the husbands' religion. Put differently, it was argued, Islam recognizes Christianity and Judaism as valid religions, but Judaism and Christianity do not recognize the validity of Islam as a religion.

Since it was assumed that the man is the stronger party in a marriage, it was argued that Christian and Jewish men will be able to compel their Muslim wives to abandon Islam. If a Muslim man would do the same, he would be violating Islamic catholic man dating a muslim woman and committing a grave sin. Importantly, the Hanafi, Maliki, and Shafi'i jurists held that it is reprehensible makruh for Muslim men to marry a kitabiyya if they live in non-Muslim countries.

They argued that in non-Muslim countries, mothers will be able to influence the children the most. Therefore, there is a high likelihood that the children will not grow up to be good Muslims unless both parents are Muslim. Some jurists even went as far as saying that Catholic man dating a muslim woman men are prohibited from marrying a kitabiyya if they live in non-Muslim countries.

This is the law as it exists or the legal legacy as we inherited it. In all honesty, personally, I am not convinced that the evidence prohibiting Muslim women from marrying a kitabi is very strong. Muslim jurists took a very strong catholic man dating a muslim woman on this matter--many of them going as far as saying if a Muslim woman marries a kitabi she is as good as an apostate.

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October edited December Will they be raised Muslim? Even if she won't convert, but agrees to let the children be raised as Catholics, this isn't a good idea - what will the children think of the two of you not agreeing on such an important thing? I've known this muslim girl for a couple of years now, we've always been close, very close. Think about it for a second, if you were a muslim by more than just a label you would not even consider marrage to a Catholic woman. Report 1 Reply to Post. Are you sure you want to delete this answer? Its a matter of if you really love her like you say you do.

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